Milestones Can Suck

What a week!
Ok, being honest here.   I think I’m a pretty put together person.  I can handle a lot.  I don’t mind risk.  I appreciate challenges.
I struggle with change.
And saying goodbye.
To things.  To what I know. To people. To memories.
I freaking hate it.
And this week was a hard one.  For lots of reasons and in lots of ways.
And I have to say, I think part of the hard was that we all missed out on the natural organic denouement that comes with the end of the school year; where you ready yourself through a series of conversations, activities, acknowledgments, and traditions.   Where you have a beginning to the end.   And it makes some sense.
I think Covid robbed us all of that.  Stupid Covid.
The rest of the hard just came from my response to the milestones being met and changes happening so quick around home.
First, we officially sold our house on Saturday.  Praise God.   Wonderful.  Off on a new adventure, right?
Yes to all of that…but still, my heart hurts thinking back to when we first discovered this lot, all the plans and work that went into building it, and all the wonderful memories we made here.  And knowing that our future days are counted in this place makes me feel so strange.
I fear change.  I fear pain.  I fear the new normal.
And it really is ok.   I keep telling myself people move all the time.  Across town, across the province, across the country, across the world.  This is not a new thing.  And your little heart will be fine.
Then there were all the kids’ milestones, and all the celebrating (ok, ok, let’s call it what it really was – mourning) that came with those.
Hudson graduated from highschool.  HIGHSCHOOL.   What the heck?  I have a highschool graduate.  Did I not just graduate from highschool?  Am I in a timewarp?  Something is seriously messed up!
So we were able to “celebrate” with a fun (it really was) graduate car parade, followed by a sweet outdoor ceremony, which meant a lot to all the grads.  
And of course, I’ve cried every day since in conversations with her about how proud I am of her, how I want her to live with me forever, and how I miss her when she’s even gone for an afternoon of work.
She has blessed my life so much.  I couldn’t have asked for a better 18 years.  Oh, I’m grateful.
Then there’s Tanner…off to highschool after a strange end to grade 8 at middle school.  I know this incredible kid is so ready and I’m not worried about him in the least.
But I still can’t seem to wrap my brain around this little jigger being 14 and ready for the big leagues.   
His school had a mini drive through recognition event for the students moving on and so it was nice to take him to that.  Crazy to see him in a group of buddies who all look like they need razors for middle school grad gifts.
And lastly, little Hayden.   My sweet little baby.  All done Grade 5 and moving on to be a middle school boy.
And this year, no ceremony in the gym, no luncheon at the regular, nothing the same.  But grateful for a sweet goodbye arranged at the school with a memory book, some trees, and a cupcake for good measure.
Hard stuff.  Moving on.  Growing up.  For some I think we feel more than others.  
I’m jealous of those who can embrace it all like it’s just awesome.
‘Cause yes, I can see the awesome parts.  I really can.   After I clear the fog from all my tears.
After I allow myself to feel the change.  Move through the flow.  And wipe my snotty nose a few times.
My head tells me it’s all good.  My head tells me just wait, just watch how it all turns out.
But my soft little heart says let me feel how this hurts first.
Let me experience the depth of sadness in letting go, so I can experience the depth of joy in accepting all the new, all the growth, and all the richness of what’s to come.

How are you doing?  How are you handling the changes in your life right now?  

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You are a Human Being Not a Human Doing

You are a human being, not a human doing. 
Are you trying to find or create your value by doing more, doing it differently?
You are valuable, so valuable because you are, not for anything you do.
You were destined for greatness. 
You are a precious child of your creator. 
You are worthy of whatever life you want, whatever relationships you want, all the happiness you desire. 
That’s it. Don’t believe you need to earn your value. You are more than enough, before you do, make, decide, act on anything. 
You are worthy because you are.
So many people are waiting to feel worthy before they take action.  They are waiting to feel like they have value before they add value.  They want to make progress toward goals, but they get stuck on what to do.
Why is that? 
Because they are trying to manufacture their value, on the spot.
Trying to create value so people will find them valuable.
Then they spin because they don’t know where to start.  What to make, create, build, offer, share…
Because they don’t know their value, and they are fearful that whatever they do offer is not the right, the proper, the most appropriate value to offer.
Remember, you are worthy because you are.
Your value is in who you are.  Your value is that you are uniquely you.  
Your energy spent trying to create value in order to feel worthy is wasted.
So what if you decided to believe that you are enough right now.  More than enough right now.
If you understand this, the doing will come, it will become organic, irresistible, and you will know exactly what to do and when you need to do it. 
But it is only when you think and believe as a worthy women, you will start attracting the perfect opportunities. 
And your worthiness cannot be bought from anyone. It can’t be earned. 
It already is
You have to understand that in the deepest part of you. 
Be real. Follow your unique path.  Be open to new opportunities that are coming into your life right now.
If you are struggling in business or in relationships, recognize where your own beliefs are limiting your growth.  
The trick is to begin from a place of I’m already worthy – and what flows from that belief rather than I need to do this and this and this in order to achieve worthiness and create impact, influence, and achieve my goals.
So when it comes to attracting the right things that you want into your life, attracting the friends, partner, customers, leaders, opportunities into your life, JUST BE YOU.

One of my favourite ways to clear negative thinking and open my mind to thoughts and beliefs that support me and allow me to see clearly my value and purpose is using essential oils either directly on my wrists (it's a great spot) or even in my diffuser.  When we use pure oils, our bodies respond by raising their frequencies to generate more enthusiasm, optimism, confidence, and determination.

Let me know if you want to know more about where to find the best ones for this!
Don't wait one more second to step up for yourself and for everyone waiting for that unique message that could only come from you.
It’s all in the being, not in the doing.

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If You Want Something You Have to STOP Chasing It

What happens when someone starts to chase you?  
Instinctually you take off, right?
You don’t know what’s going on, if you are in danger or not, but your instincts kick in and you run.
The same happens to much in life.
When we chase things they become even harder to get. And the thing that seemed close enough to grab now seems miles away.
You’ll see it this with relationships, with jobs, with customers, and of course with money.
Now, this isn’t to say not to go after your dreams and be willing to work hard for that which you want.   But this is to help remove the desperation, the pleading, the whining, the frustration, the self-pity, and the angst that often comes with putting the energy into yanking on the thing you want, rather than being the kind of person that that thing is naturally drawn to.
Because if you have to force anything to be with you, when the smallest chance to escape comes that thing will slip through your fingers.
When we chase after things in desperation, our energy sends those things into a frenzied flee.
Think of catching a fish – what’s easier?  To run into the river and grab a nice big trout before it sees you and shimmies away or to drop a line with a tasty treat that the fish finds irresistible.
I would suggest the latter is easier.  It feels lighter.  It feels organic.  It's fun.  And it makes sense.
But in order to be attractive enough to get the fish, the fisherman has to set him/herself up for success. Rod, bait, favourite spot – it all has to be thought out.  But once set up, the rest just comes naturally.
And this lesson can be applied to almost everything.
We have to be prepared.  Prepared for love.  Prepared for friendships.  Prepared for a career change.  Prepared for a new business.  Prepared for wealth.  
We have to get our minds right.   WE have to get our energy right.  When we put all of our energy into our attractor factor, we can lose the desperation and the need to control others and the way they respond to us.
We can stop worrying about repelling that which we desire.  We can stop putting energy into the chase and instead throw all of our energy into our magnetism.  
By emitting the high energy and frequency of someone who is prepared for blessings in their lives we become a beacon to direct the things we want into our lives.
This stuff works.  It really works.  It feels counterintuitive and strange, but focusing on our own growth, healing and betterment brings great rewards.

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Just Freaking Manifest It Already

You’ve probably heard the term Manifestation.  You probably have an opinion on it too.  Maybe you are all in, believing wholeheartedly in the power of your energy, your mindset, and your inspired actions.
Or maybe you think it’s all a load of hee-haw, and you base your life on only what you can connect to your five senses.
Or just maybe, you’re somewhere in between.  You’ve heard some amazing stories of how people have transformed their lives through manifestation, but you wonder if they’ve just had some good luck.  Or you think some people are meant to be more aligned with that sort of stuff, and so it’s easy for them to make things happen in their favor.
Well, all I can say is I’ve thought or said things that pretty much run the gamut.  I’ve believed, I’ve doubted, then believed again, but then wavered thinking maybe I’m not cut out for this upleveled, higher calling of life – to align my spirit and my mind with the desires of my heart to actually rise to my potential.
But Friend, that has shifted.  Shifted so rapidly.  Shifted so completely.  
Maybe shift is not the right word.          

Like, be aware of a new truth, recognize its value, and move in that direction.
We are always manifesting our lives.  Whether we’re getting what we desire or what we don’t desire, we are creating our reality with our thoughts.
Have you ever know someone who is constantly unlucky.  They never seem to get the job they want, they partner they want.   They miss out on opportunities and get left out of everything.  What else do you observe about them?  They focus on being unlucky.  They lament others who have it better than them.  They often see obstacles as a big middle finger to their lives, right?
And what about someone who seemingly has good fortune follow them?  They get the friends they want.  They go on nice vacations with their families.  They seem to have so much.  And they’re SO happy.  Guaranteed, these people for the most part are the people who notice others.  They appreciate and feel gratitude for their lives.   They turn obstacles into opportunities for themselves, and believe that life is happening for them and making way for more big beautiful miracles to happen in their lives.
It was normal in my upbringing to sit back and see what life would bring you.   It was normal to wait for good things to just happen, and then respond accordingly.  But living this way is disempowering.  It’s giving all control to things and people around us, rather than being aware of what we want and making it happen in two distinct ways.
Without going into too much detail, there are two things I have done to make the pivot in my life that has attracted beautiful relationships, accomplishments, and money.
And once I understood how to do it, the world made so much sense.

The first distinction was to recognize the power of an abundance mindset – embracing that the universe is ready, full, and intent on helping us achieve the desires of our hearts. Our hearts have these deep-seeded instincts to fulfill and the universe is set on helping us.
We have to believe this wholeheartedly.  Desire or want isn’t enough.  We have to believe and hold on to the vision and the beautiful senses connected to our vision.

Secondly, we have to take action, inspired action.  This action shouldn’t be hard.  It should be excitingly challenging, but not difficult because we have such strong belief and we are holding a vision.  The action we take is born from our desires and is aligned with the achievement goals we have set.
It really breaks down that simply.  It’s not a complicated, crazy thang.  
But it takes choice and commitment.
You’re already manifesting your life, whether you like it or not.  Why not make sure what you’re manifesting is what you truly desire?

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Abundance Ain’t Just a Buzzword

So, I’m gonna be honest.   The word abundance has been rolling around a long time.  I grew up with the word used extensively, as a Sunday School student learning about God’s love, his mercies, and his blessings.
And then years (decades) later as an adult, it felt like the word made a resurgence in my life.  When I resigned from my career as a schoolteacher and went into the world of building businesses online, I started to hear abundance in every motivational speech and every life coach's lesson.
And I liked the word.   I liked what it stood for.  I liked that it challenged me to think in terms of not just a little, but a lot.  Having plenty.  Being bountiful.  I was given many opportunities to question old thought patterns and recognize that much (or pretty much all) of my life had been spent thinking in the opposite mindset: lack, poverty, scarcity.
And for years I’d listen to others talk about the two opposing mindsets and I’d be so impressed at the ability so many had to forgo a scarcity mindset for an abundance mindset.   Impressed, but yet not engaged.  Abundance had become a buzzword.  I was talkin’ the talk, but I wasn’t walkin’ the walk.  
The concept of accepting that we are made to fulfill our wildest dreams and have whatever we choose, was nice.  The idea that the more you have the more you can give, was exciting.  The notion that money is not like a pie – with only so much there so that we have to compete for it – that is so freeing and empowering to understand after years of believing there is only so much to go around.
But knowing all of these things in your head is different than having an abundance mindset, because an abundance mindset requires something else…it’s the retraining of your instinctual thoughts.
So, it’s a melding of both mind and heart.  It’s making a choice to think abundantly, being conscious of your thoughts, replacing scarcity thoughts immediately with abundance thoughts, than taking inspired action.
And doing this on repeat, day by day, hour by hour, minute by minute, second by second.
In recent times, my husband and I went through a huge financial meltdown – something so scary, so mind-numbing, just paralyzing.
It was so big and so overwhelming that we were forced to make a choice.
Give up or grab hold of the power of our minds.
And if you know us, you’ll know we don’t give up.  
So we were left with one option.  
We decided that we were capable and worthy of abundance.
That we were absolutely rejecting any notions of scarcity and lack.
That we were absolutely open to any and all opportunities available to us.
We turned on our radar to only receive frequencies that would transmit wealth and prosperity, and would block out frequencies that transmit negative beliefs and thoughts of poverty and failure.
Even while things were hard and getting harder, we shared gratitude – for our family, for our friends, for little miracles we’d see, for small opportunities to bless others and be blessed.
We started listening to podcasts and audiobooks that would nurture our mindset.  We would share what we were learning.  We would challenge each other to think bigger.  To believe stronger.
And some crazy stuff started happening.  Money we didn’t know about showed up.  Big money.  Work opportunities showed up.  Bonus opportunities showed up.  We were freaking floored.
Yes, there was a time when I believed this kind of thinking was woo-woo.  There was a time when I was on the fence – moving closer but not quite ready to jump over.
I have never felt so excited about what life has to offer as now.
For me.  For you.  For everyone who embraces their power, chooses abundance, then takes inspired action toward their goals.
This. is. for. everyone.   
Abundance means there’s a bounty available for all.  It rejects the idea that when you have plenty, your neighbour has little.  It celebrates the idea that you and your neighbour can have plenty together, and with that plenty you can generate more abundance, share your abundance, and create a more abundant world.
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